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How To Deepen Your Relationships Using The BeMo Practice

How To Deepen Your Relationships Using The BeMo Practice

The BeMo Practice can be a profound tool for deepening relationship insights by fostering self-awareness, enhancing communication, and nurturing emotional intelligence. Here's how The BeMo Practice works to enrich your Understanding and connection within relationships:

1. Understanding Self and Others:

The BeMo Practice begins with a deep dive into self-awareness, using tools like the Feelings and Needs Guides to articulate your emotional states and underlying Needs. This introspection is crucial in relationships as it helps you Understand your reactions, triggers, and desires, making it easier to communicate these aspects to others and understand theirs in return. 

If there is anything that I would encourage you to add to your Knowing from this post it is that, as an adult, it is not the responsibility of anyone else to meet your Needs.  The notion that someone else is responsible for your emotional state comes from our narratives of unmet Needs as a child and will quickly complicate relationships by running the risk of emotional codependency (i.e. "I need you to ___ so that I can ___ .").

The BeMo Journal & Practice helps you to break the patterns of speaking in "need to's" and releasing your power to others in a way that builds resentment and a whiplash of unsafe feelings when it doesn't go your way.  To be able to speak your Needs more effectively and share deeply in the relationships that matter to you, start with your SELF.  If your Need is for respect, communication, and connection with others, the best place to start is to give yourself respect, communication, and connection.  You can fulfill this need by carving out time to show up for yourself on the page each and every day whether it be for five minutes or hours of self-reflection.

2. Communicating More Effectively:

With the FUNCK methodology, The BeMo Practice offers a structured approach to communication. By identifying and expressing feelings and needs clearly, you can prevent misunderstandings and build a foundation of empathy and openness in your relationships.

Learn how to speak FUNCK within your relationships by reading this blog post here.

3. Resolving Conflicts with Compassion:

Conflicts are often rooted in unmet needs or unexpressed feelings. By allowing yourself the time to add your narrative to your Knowing power, you are able to more easily identify when unmet needs and un-dealt with trauma or neglect find themselves in the middle of a here-and-now conversation.  In doing so, you'll stop yourself from repeating behaviors and conversations that do damage to yourself and your relationships.  You'll be able to provide yourself with self-understanding and quickly utilize your repetition of The BeMo Practice to speak from a place of self-understanding.  The BeMo Practice encourages you to explore these areas, helping you approach conflicts with a mindset geared towards resolution and mutual understanding, rather than blame or defensiveness.

4. Building Emotional Intelligence:

Often, we think we are great at expressing how we feel or we are great at not letting our feelings get the best of us.  Depending on our attachment styles, all of us tend to be well-practiced in how we choose to feel-and-deal with a perceived emotional state.  However, "feeling your feelings" - as they say - is more than identifying a word or the threat of an emotional uprise bubbling from within yourself.  Identifying how you feel is the first step in showing up for yourself.  With practice, you'll be able to easily articulate feelings without having to prove them, defend them, or deny that they exist.  This is the first step to "feeling your feelings."  With practice, you'll quickly unwind the limiting beliefs and triggers associated with repeated feelings and understand the narratives around associated Needs.  This communication with yourself becomes the cohesive, articulated communication you begin to have with others without thought or effort.  The effort you put into showing up for yourself becomes the calm, soothed confidence of how you speak to your partner, friends, children, and more. 

As you become more adept at recognizing and managing your emotions through The BeMo Practice, you'll also develop the ability to recognize and respond to the emotions of others more effectively. This emotional intelligence is key to deepening connections and fostering meaningful relationships.

5. Creating Shared Understanding:

The BeMo Practice can be a shared activity between partners, friends, or family members, providing a structured way to explore each other's inner worlds.

We love to hear how our BeMo Community shares their journey with their loved ones.  BeMo journalers share pictures of nightly journaling routines with their children - learning to share emotions and speak their needs allowing each individual to feel and build security as a family. 

Parents reach out to us and share how they were able to have much more compassion in the effort to raise their toddler and now, through the time they've spent on themselves, they easily speak through the FUNCK with their children. 

Couples share with us how they engage in weekly meetings - working through the FUNCK together in order to proactively fend off emotional repetitions that previously would manifest as fighting. 

This shared journey can lead to profound insights about each other, strengthening the bond and enhancing mutual understanding.

Tell us! How do you share your BeMo Practice?

6. Nurturing Growth and Healing:

By continuously engaging with The BeMo Practice, you encourage not only personal growth but also the growth of your relationships. The practice promotes healing from past hurts - taking your life back from anyone who has disappointed or heart you without giving away the responsibility to others in a way that repeats the narrative of your experience. 

The BeMo Journal & Practice offers a path towards more secure and fulfilling connections - from the inside out.

7. Practicing Mindful Presence:

The BeMo Practice emphasizes mindfulness and presence, encouraging you to fully engage with yourself and your loved ones in the moment. This presence can transform ordinary interactions into deep, meaningful exchanges, enriching your relationships.

Tell Us! How has utilizing The BeMo Practice Resources helped you navigate a difficult conversation with others?

8. Celebrating Progress Together:

As you and your loved ones make strides in your individual and collective journeys through The BeMo Practice, take time to celebrate these achievements. Acknowledging growth and progress together can be incredibly bonding and motivational.

In essence, The BeMo Practice is not just a tool for self-improvement but a gateway to enriching your relationships. By fostering a deeper understanding of yourself and others, enhancing communication, and nurturing emotional intelligence, The BeMo Practice can help you cultivate more meaningful, resilient, and loving relationships.

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